all's fair

i was listening to Sands complaining about how the Cougar always seems to get what she wants, be it a free parking spot or some guy helping her re-model her kitchen for just the cost of materials. she knew she shouldn't complain because the Cougar has had her share of hard knocks and besides, those who don't ask, don't get, right?

so i told her to look at the siuation with some perspctive. the Cougar gets free parking spots and free tickets to hockey games because she has zero shame and just asks. she's not proud - she'll ask for anything if she thinks she can get it. Sands isn't like that. she is very proud and i pointed out to her that her pride is what keeps her from getting the freebies. no one gets freebies who doesn't ask for it. and Sands won't part with her pride for one minute. so, she has to sacrifice a good parking space every now and then because she doesn't want to lower herself to the Cougar's standard.

and take a look at the Cougar's life. she is a survivor and self-provider because she has to be. she raised two kids on her own after she left an emotionally-abusive marriage. would Sands trade her life for the Cougar's? nope.

some traits, such as that "go get 'em" attitude are borne from necessity. i'm thankful that i've lived a life where i've had to "go get 'em" because i wanted to, not because i had no choice.

life isn't always fair, but it's good when you put it in perspective.