too honest

there is, i have determined, such a thing as too much honesty.

JW is good-looking and kind. he's tall and soulful. he actually makes pretty decent music. he's open-minded and free-spirited, but not in a way that makes him flaky. he's articulate and intelligent. he likes kids and cooks lasanga. he's a Big Brother and has been for the past three years. he's in touch with his feelings and isn't too afraid to share them. too good to be true, right? that's what i thought.

here is what i already knew about him but decided i could live with in order to have a chance with him: he lives in a suite at his dad's house. he's sold his car and takes the bus everywhere. he considers himself a musician above what his day job is (teaching ESL). he wholly admits that in his younger years (and not so younger years, also his words), he was more interested in bedding women than getting to know them.

i decided to check out his profile again today as i noticed he had change his picture (he tends to add and delete stuff on his profile when the mood hits him). today, i found out tha he contracted HSV-2 (read: herpes) about four years ago. i have a feeling i know why his last LTR ended.

not surprisingly, i have changed my entire view of how to approach a potential relationship with him, at least in the romantic sense. perhaps i'm wrong, but herpes is not one of those things (like living at your parents' house) that you overlook when considering starting a new relationship with someone.

i think that's too much for even me to deal with. it's too bad - he seemed practically-perfect for me on paper.