domestication

here is a list of things that people normally do on dates that Sam and I have never done in the past 7 months:

• watched TV together
• gone bowling
• sat at a pub to watch a game
• house party with friends
• shot pool
• gone to a movie

yes, friends, Sam and I have finally done the one date-night thing that most people cover on the first or second date.  i think he got the idea of watching it from something i posted on Instagram.  George and I had an exchange about whether either of us had seen "American Hustle" yet and I mentioned that I wanted to see it.  cut to a day later and Sam and I are texting about what we should do on the weekend and he suggested a movie and the first one he suggests? you guessed it.

i often wonder why it took us nearly seven months to do the one activity that most people who are dating do so frequently.  and then i remember why:  pheromones.  gaddam he's irresistible, and this is coming from someone that used to find excuses not to get down and dirty.  i also suspect it is because he doesn't want to fall into the trap of domestication too fast.  after all, we are just "casual", remember?

my theory is that he doesn't like to be physically stationary, and therefore most of our date night activities have included being up and about somehow: art gallery, outdoor markets, cooking together, walking, even shopping.  going to watch a movie or even worse, staying home to watch TV or a movie would basically shove us into a "comfort" zone that maybe he doesn't want to be in.  it's funny because at first, all of our dates were "eating" dates, so we were either at restaurants or at either one of our apartments, cooking for the other.  i used to think that was because he didn't want to be seen in public with me - not so much ashamed of me or to be seen with me, but perhaps he didn't want to run into someone he knew and have to explain who i was.

now that we do most of our dates outside of our respective homes, of course i think he doesn't want to get too cozy and have me think that our relationship has progressed to more than what it actually is.  oh, how the mind works against us, eh?