deja here we go again

i met this guy on the fishing website. actually, i had marked him as a favorite, intending to re-read his profile to see if i wanted to message him. i had doubts, mainly because he was one of those tall, wiry guys and we know how i look next to them. but he beat me to it. the next day, he had sent me a message that said:

"thanks for the compliment of adding me to your favorites. You are clearly beautiful and your profile sounds terrific.I look forward to finding out which of the available options made you add me as a favorite! :) All my best..."

i was very, very intrigued. we traded a couple of messages back and forth and decided to meet for coffee the next week, meaning this past thursday.

to make a long story short, it was really nice. i really liked him. it was slightly awkward but we had a lot in common and he was a genuinely nice guy. kind of geeky but really cute at the same time. really good sense of humor. tall and lanky but i could get over the lanky part because of the dark hair and blue eyes. we made plans to get together again next week and parted ways.

i sent him my usual text the next day, just re-iterating that i had a good time. he said the same and i returned the text with asking him whether he was free that sunday or the following one. he never answered it.

i pow-wowed with Mon and she said i should just phone him. when i got home from my walk this evening with Luna, i was ready to pick up the phone. but i decided to check my e-mail first, even though i have hidden my profile on the fishing site and was no longer getting e-mails. and he sent me one. i had hope. it said:

"I had a great time last week, but I had a second and third date with someone else, and we've decided to become exclusive. I'm jut about to delete my profile.Thanks for a great time, and good luck!"

AGAIN? REALLY? this is the third time this year that i've connected with someone and they've picked someone else, and about the six or seventh time in my dating history that it's happened. Really?

i must have really shitty dating karma.

re-think

i recently re-took an online version of the Meyers-Briggs Type Indicator test and discovered that i have changed. for so many years, i my type has always been INFJ (introverted-intuitive-feeling-judging). it's a very rare type (i think i prided myself on it).

when i re-took it, i ended up being an ISFJ (introverted-sensing-feeling-judging). the description i found on the internet made so much more sense - it was basically a portrait of me:

http://www.personalitypage.com/ISFJ.html

even the career suggestions included mine. i was pleased. until i found the link that said which MB type i should be with - ESFP (extraverted-sensing-feeling-perceiving) or ESTP (extraverted-sensing-thinking-perceiving). extraverts? really? i mean, i know i need someone who is more outgoing than i am, but an extravert?

oddly enough, in my online dating exploits, i've specifically avoided men who were in sales, marketing or actors. and who are ESFPs or ESTPs? Salesmen, marketers and performers. Oy.